How do i stand

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  1. onsetter

    onsetter New Member

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    Well this is new to me. First of all i committed adultery with a female who i work with. Racked with guilt and destroying the family unit i signed everything over to my wife. Knowing that at least she and my 21 year old son would have a mortgage free house and some security. I have now been on my own for 15 months and my wife keeps putting pressure on me for more money. I think she knows that i am the type of person that will help anyone. I know i have done wrong but do you think its time to say enough is enough as i am being financialy crippled. My son even gets money out of me knowing that i never say no. What more can i do? Is it worth fighting for my half of the house as we were married for 25 years. Any advice will be greatly valued.
     
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    thanks for the reply. I wish it was as simple as that. Very close people to me have said exactly what you have said. It's me that has to overcome this as i feel so guilt ridden and wanting to please everyone. I just wish i could move on. I think i need help from someone.
     
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    Yet again thanks. I think friends and family have skirted around the issue of me being down. Maybe direct talking from you can start the ball rolling and i can start to rebuild my life. Again many thanks.
     
  4. N8BEAR

    N8BEAR New Member

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    Stop the " i am going destroy myself with guilt thing now please.
    So you slept with someone, ok it finished your marriage , it does not make you the antichrist. This website is full of loving decent people who had an affair. The most important thing is to get a solicitor, have a decent settlement so you are financialy secure as well and to look after you and your son.

    Whats he going to do with a penniless farther ? Life is not perfect, now move onto the next stage.
     
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    The first thing you must look after is yourself, if you need to see a doctor or you think you are depressed deal with it, your son needs a father, stop being in a selfish swamp and really live, look after your son. How will he feel if his father gives up ...... what will he think about next time he hits a problem, see a shrink .. do anything but STOP this guilt waste of time please.
     
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    N8BEAR New Member

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    YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
    Let me know how you doing please.

    kind rgds
    N8BEAR
     
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