When a marriage goes sour it’s important to know when to call it a day.

A new life on your own can be daunting but it’s better than living out a failed relationship day-to-day.

Solicitors make a lot of money from divorce cases, as most people in the UK don’t know how to get a divorce without their assistance.

You can get a divorce in England and Wales if;

  • Your marriage has lasted at least 12 months
  • You see England or Wales as your permanent home or be domiciled in England or Wales if you live abroad.

In most cases where there is agreement to the divorce, there is no need to instruct a solicitor and you can therefore get divorced by doing it yourself.

Here are the 5 stages to a divorce that you must take in order to obtain a decree absolute and end your marriage.

1. Find valid grounds for divorce

To file for divorce your marriage must have irretrievably broken down by establishing one of the five available ‘facts’.

2. File the divorce petition

This is a sort of application for court permission to divorce, and reasons must be provided as to how the relationship has broken down and why you want it to be over.

3. Acknowledgement of Service

Your application for divorce will be checked by the courts staff and if the paperwork is correct you’ll receive a stamped copy of your application by the divorce centre and a case number.

4. Apply for a decree nisi

If your partner concurs with the divorce petition then you will receive a decree nisi, which confirms that there’s no good reason why you can’t divorce. “nisi” is Latin and means “unless”.

The judge will set you a nisi pronouncement date, which will then allow you to move onto the final step in the divorce procedure.

5. Apply for a decree absolute

You have to wait six weeks after the decree nisi is pronounced before you can apply for a decree absolute, which legally ends the marriage.

Filing a divorce petition

When you file a divorce petition form with the court, you must include;

  • You and your spouse’s full name and address.
  • A copy of the marriage certificate.
  • The names and dates of birth of any children, even if they are grown up.

If your partner has been unfaithful and the person who they’ve been unfaithful with is named in the petition they will receive copies of the paperwork once filed.

If applying by post, you’ll need to send 3 copies of the divorce petition to the court, 4 copies if you have named someone your husband or wife committed adultery with.

The court will send a copy of your petition to your husband or wife, which they’ll need to respond to for your divorce to advance.

Grounds for Divorce in the UK

In order to apply for a divorce you need to explain to the court why it should be ended. There are five accepted grounds for divorce in the UK:

Adultery

If your husband or wife has had sexual intercourse with someone of the opposite sex, this is considered justified grounds for divorce, as long as you divorce within 6 months of discovering the infidelity.

Unreasonable behaviour

Unreasonable behaviour could include physical violence, bullying or verbal abuse, drink or drug abuse, financial disagreements or unfaithfulness.

If you can’t put up with it any longer, these are reasonable grounds for divorce.

Finding behaviours of your spouse that are unreasonable can be challenging, so we’ve put together a list of examples of unreasonable behaviour, that can be used to help you get a divorce in the UK.

Desertion

If your partners leaves you this is considered a legitimate ground for divorce.

This could be if they leave without your approval, without a reason or to end the relationship.

You need to be separated for at least two of the last two and a half years, and you must both agree to the divorce in writing.

If you have been living separately for more than five years then you will usually be granted a divorce, even if both parties don’t agree on it.

Separation Length

If you have been divorced 2 years and both parties are in agreement to the divorce you will be able to get a divorce in an amicable and efficient manner.

If there isn’t agreement to the divorce, you’ll need to wait for 5 years of separation when you don’t need your spouses agreement to divorce.

However, you will need to know their address so the divorce petition can be sent to your spouse, otherwise the process becomes longer and more expensive.

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Court Fees in Divorce

When applying for a divorce you must pay the court fee of £550.

You’ll need to do this to start your divorce, although you may be able to get state help with this if you’re on certain benefits or a low-income.

To find out if you are entitled to state help through fee exemption, you can use our court fee calculator.

How to pay court fees

You can pay court fees in 1 of 3 different ways;

  • Via Debit or Credit Card – The divorce centre staff will call you
  • Via cheque – made payable to ‘HM Courts and Tribunals Service’
  • Via Debit or Credit Card – If you proceed with us, we can take your payment.

Do-it-yourself divorce

It’s becoming increasingly common for couples to arrange their own divorces without the assistance of costly solicitors.

This can be achieved if the couple can reach agreement on a number of issues, including the reason for the divorce, how childcare will be distributed, and how money, property and possessions will be divided.

If partners can agree on these key matters then a court hearing won’t be necessary and a DIY Divorce is a very quick, easy and affordable way to resolve your divorce.

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This post was written by Mark Keenan. Editor of the Divorce Online Blog and Managing Director of Online Legal Service Ltd. Mark has been writing about divorce and related subjects for over 20+ years and is an expert in legal marketing.

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