When a marriage goes sour it’s important to know when to call it a day.

A new life on your own can be daunting but it’s better than living out a failed relationship day-to-day.

Solicitors make a lot of money from divorce cases, as most people in the UK don’t know how to get a divorce without their assistance.

To get a divorce in England and Wales your marriage must have lasted at least 12 months and you’ll need to see England or Wales as your permanent home or be domiciled in England or Wales if you live abroad.

In the UK there are 4 steps or stages you need to take in order to obtain a divorce. We’ve outlined the divorce process you need to follow below.

4 Steps To Filing For Divorce

  1. Find valid grounds for divorce
  2. File D8 divorce petition at court
  3. Apply for decree nisi
  4. Application for decree absolute

1. Find valid grounds for divorce

To file for divorce your marriage must have irretrievably broken down by establishing one of the five available ‘facts’.

2. File the divorce petition

This is a sort of application for court permission to divorce, and reasons must be provided as to how the relationship has broken down and why you want it to be over.

3. Apply for a decree nisi

If your partner concurs with the divorce petition then you will receive a decree nisi, which confirms that there’s no good reason why you can’t divorce. “nisi” is Latin and means “unless”.

The judge will set you a nisi pronouncement date, which will then allow you to move onto the final step in the divorce procedure.

4. Apply for a decree absolute

You have to wait six weeks after the decree nisi is received before you can apply for a decree absolute, which legally ends the marriage.

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It’s becoming increasingly common for couples to arrange their own divorces without the assistance of costly solicitors.

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Grounds for Divorce in the UK

In order to apply for a divorce you need to explain why it should be ended. There are five accepted grounds for divorce in the UK:


If your husband or wife has had sexual intercourse with someone of the opposite sex, this is considered justified grounds for divorce, as long as you divorce within 6 months of discovering the infidelity.

Unreasonable behaviour

Unreasonable behaviour could include physical violence, bullying or verbal abuse, drink or drug abuse, financial disagreements or unfaithfulness.

If you can’t put up with it any longer, these are reasonable grounds for divorce. We’ve compiled a list of all potential behaviours that can be used to get a divorce, simply click below.

For more information about unreasonable behaviour click here


If your partners leaves you this is considered a legitimate ground for divorce.

This could be if they leave without your approval, without a reason or to end the relationship.

You need to be separated for at least two of the last two and a half years, and you must both agree to the divorce in writing.

If you have been living separately for more than five years then you will usually be granted a divorce, even if both parties don’t agree on it.

Separation Length

If you have been divorced 2 years and both parties are in agreement to the divorce you will be able to get a divorce in an amicable and efficient manner.

If there isn’t agreement to the divorce, you’ll need to wait for 5 years of separation when you don’t need your spouses agreement to divorce.

However, you will need to know their address so the divorce petition can be sent to your spouse, otherwise the process becomes longer and more expensive.

Call us on 01793 384 029 for free advice on choosing the right grounds for divorce or simply email us today.

Filing a divorce petition

When you file a divorce petition form, you must include you and your spouse’s full name and address, a copy of the marriage certificate as well as the names and dates of birth of any children, even if they are grown up.

If your partner has been unfaithful and the person who they have been unfaithful with is named in the document they will receive copies of the paperwork once filed.

When you submit the divorce petition there will be a £550 court fee to start a divorce, although you may be able to get state help with this if you’re on certain benefits or a low-income.

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Alternatively, you can call our team of divorce advisers on 01793 384 029 or if you’d rather receive information via email, you can send us an email.

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This post was written by Mark Keenan. Editor of the Divorce Online Blog and Managing Director of Online Legal Service Ltd. Mark has been writing about divorce and related subjects for over 20+ years and is an expert in legal marketing.

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