What are the 5 stages of divorce?

What are the 5 stages of divorce?

The five stages of divorce describe the emotional and legal journey most people experience.

The 5 stages of divorce refer to the common emotional journey, adapted from grief theory, which includes:

1. Shock & Denial: A sense of disbelief or emotional numbness, with difficulty accepting that the marriage is ending.
2. Anger: Strong feelings of frustration, resentment, or blame directed toward a spouse, the situation, or the breakdown itself.
3. Bargaining: Attempts to regain control by negotiating, making compromises, or hoping the divorce can be delayed or avoided.
4. Depression: Persistent sadness, loss of motivation, and emotional exhaustion linked to the end of the relationship.
5. Acceptance: Emotional adjustment to the separation, gaining clarity, and beginning to plan for life after divorce.

Emotional separation occurs when one or both spouses accept that the marriage is ending. Conflict often follows, involving uncertainty, disagreement, or fear about finances and children.

Negotiation focuses on resolving practical issues, often with legal support. Legal resolution covers the divorce itself and any financial or child-related orders. Post-divorce adjustment involves rebuilding financially, emotionally, and socially.

These stages are not linear. Some overlap or repeat. Understanding them helps manage expectations and reduces unnecessary conflict during the process.