Why The Breakup? 4 Things That May Have Killed Your Relationship

Just been dumped and don’t know why? It’s often a very perplexing issue, but to be honest, the reasons why breakups happen are usually quite simple.

You’re probably thinking, “no way. My breakup was confusing as $*#! and you have no idea what you’re talking about!”

Watch your language and in a minute, I’ll explain.

A lot of articles you’ll come across will say stuff like, “It’s because you didn’t communicate properly!”


“You two just aren’t compatible with each other!”


“Dude, you’re a Taurus! She’s a bloody Libra! Those two just aren’t meant to be. Why didn’t you Google your astrological sign compatibility before getting involved with her, you idiot?”

While the first two suggestions are somewhat reasonable — lack of communication and general incompatibility are both bad news for serious romantic relationships — they’re actually not usually the main reasons behind a breakup.

Nope, believe it or not, research shows that the reason why 88% of relationships fails is because of one thing: the loss of attraction!

Yes, the reason why you two failed to keep the relationship going is that you were (or they were) doing or saying certain things that killed the attraction. Here’s a short list of attraction killers:

  1. Being needy. Yes, being physically and emotionally needy is an unattractive trait. So if your partner was leaving to go out with friends and you started pleading him/her to stay with you that night, you’ve just lost yourself 8 attraction points. Don’t be surprised your relationship didn’t last long.
  2. Being controlling. Controlling your partners every single action is a huge attraction killer. Being happy is all about freedom – doing what you want, when you want, and so forth. When that’s taken away from you by the one you love, it’s likely that was a huge reason why your relationship failed.
  3. Infidelity. Not being able to trust your loved one is a big attraction killer. Relationships and trust go hand in hand, and when you do something that puts that trust into question, then the reasons why the relationship should last begin to fade.
  4. Seeking validation from your partner.Do one of these quotes sound familiar?
    • “Are my muscles big enough?”
    • “Does this skirt make my ass look flabby?”
    • “Is my penis big enough for you?”
    • “Are my boobs big enough for you?”

    Saying stuff like this just isn’t attractive, but being confident is. Confident people don’t need to ask these questions because they know that they look just fine.

So, if you’re keen to prevent unwanted breakups in your future relationship(s), I recommend that you keep these 4 pointers in mind… if you can successfully avoid these errors, you’ll find yourself involved in much healthier relationships in the future.

This post was written by Mark Keenan. Editor of the Divorce Online Blog and Managing Director of Online Legal Service Ltd. Mark has been writing about divorce and related subjects for over 20+ years and is an expert in legal marketing.

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